6.20.2013

Kill Them With Kindness

This post is sponsored by Nestle Pure Life, however all thoughts, views, and opinions expressed are entirely my own. 

"Kill them with kindness," she said. Over and over and over again.


My mom is one of those people that everyone loves to love. I'm not even being bias here... It's the honest truth. She funny, she's helpful, she's hard working, she's organized, she's generous. Sigh. The list goes on. You can't help but get frustrated with her at times because she's just so nice. She genuinely cares about everyone that crosses her path and wants to leave each and every person with a smile...

Obviously, growing up, the drama between me and my sisters/friends appeared to be never ending. Pretty typical for the tween years, I'd say. I wouldn't even be able to begin counting the number of times I went home crying to my mom about something someone had said to me, the way they looked at me, etc. Same garbage, different day in all reality.

While the situations changed, my groups of friends changed, my personality changed... One thing never did. 

"Kill them with kindness," she said. Over and over and over again.

I didn't understand that advice at all when I was younger, but now that I've grown up, I hold onto it pretty tightly. My sisters have even commented on how good I've gotten at actually doing just that.

I feel that there's a bit of a stigma with that old saying. Some say it's only being fake. Some say it's giving people permission to walk all over you. However, I could not disagree with either of those statements any more than I do already. I solely believe that there is not enough kindness in this world. There aren't enough people who set the bar high for treating people with respect, class, and dignity no matter what the circumstance. There aren't enough people willing to sacrifice their own selfish ways in order to resolve conflict. The world we live in is very me, me, ME. We need to stop underestimating our ability to treat every person that we meet or know with absolute kindness.

If we don't agree with someone's opinions or actions? We can still respect. We can still be kind.
If we don't understand why someone does something? We can still respect. We can still be kind.
If someone hurts us and doesn't apologize or make up for it the way we think they should? We can still respect. We can still be kind.

One of my most favorite quotes comes from an amazing speaker and author named Rick Warren. He says:

"Our culture has accepted two huge lies: The first is that if you disagree with someone's lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means that you must agree with everything they believe in or do. Both are complete nonsense. You don't have to compromise convictions in order to be compassionate."

I really don't know that there's any better way to put it. I am so thankful that my mother instilled gentle kindness in me. It has made a tremendous impact on who I have become and I couldn't be more proud of that. I believe it's one of the main reasons I have such a passion for working with young children and the mentally disabled. It's taught me compassion, patience, and grace. It's taught me not only to love, but also to serve. It's taught me that no matter what I'm going through, there is always kindness - whether it be in the form of a hug, smile, or simple compliment - and lovely little kindness needs to be passed a long.


This post is sponsored by Nestle Pure Life, however all thoughts, views, and opinions expressed are entirely my own. 

7 comments:

Amanda aka Manda said...

I 100% agree with this post. My mama always told me the same thing!

Sarah [NurseLovesFarmer.com] said...

This is a beautiful post and my MIL sounds a lot like your mom. I need to practice more of this in my life. I feel that I am kind and compassionate, but things are such a mess with one of my SIL's right now because she feels judged by my beliefs which are complete opposite to hers and such is absolutely not the case. It's something I pray about every day.

Amberly said...

That is one of my favorite statements and mottos! :) I think you'd probably be one of the best people at that!

Venus Trapped In Mars said...

You are always kind. And smiling. I can just tell you wake up with a smile on your face and go to bed with a smile on your face. That is exactly who I want to be associated with! xoxo

Erin @ Sweetness Itself said...

this is so beautiful, friend :) thank you for the reminder.

xoxo
erin

www.sweetnessitself.com

Susan Jeffries said...

My grandpas said these same words to my mom when she was growing up. This advice has certainly stood the test of time. Blessings, Susan

Suzzie Vehrs said...

You're mom sounds like one incredible lady. You too. I love that quote from Mother Teresa. It's always possible. Sometimes that is so much harder to live than say. But nevertheless, true.