March 04, 2013

Insecurities


A few weeks back, I received some ridiculous comments/email's on a blog post I wrote on being bought with a price. {which have since been deleted}

This week, I received some criticism from a few of my peers about the perfect grade I scored on a writing assignment.

All of the "hate" has gotten me a little fired up, and honestly, I think it's just plain SAD how people feel as if they know me and my words well enough to judge what I've written... Or even further... What I've EARNED.

It got me thinking a lot about insecurity. Something that ALL of us struggle with whether we'll humbly accept/admit it or not.

I would like to first say that I am not perfect... Oh, Lord, I am SO aware of that. I know that I can be rather outspoken at times... Ultimately, though, at the end of the day, this is my blog. I literally own it. 

If you don't want to read what I write and kindly leave feedback, I'm going to be blunt with you... Please, by all means, feel free to leave. There is nothing stopping you.

My friend Chrissy said it PERFECTLY this past week in a post of hers...

"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. If you don't agree with a post that you just read... Write your own post about the topic. Think about it in your own head. Don't berate the person that took the time and energy to put those words into a post and send it out for their readers to see. There is a big difference between constructive criticism {which I also feel should be used sparingly} and being just plain mean."

I have never told anybody that they would agree with my perspective on things all the time. I've never promised a person that they would LOVE everything I post about. I have not once claimed my opinion as the only one that matters...

All I'm saying is this:

This blog is me. These words are mine.

I will never apologize for that.

If you have something kind to say, feel free to leave a comment or shoot me an e-mail. I would love to hear from you!

 If you have an opinion that contradicts what I've said, feel free to post about it yourself. On your blog. You don't need to address me and my opinion to do so!

I don't play a role in forming your opinion, and most likely, you don't play a role in forming mine. Instead of bashing what you hate, promote what you love.

Proverbs 16:247~ Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.

And with that, I leave you with some amazing wisdom... A profound quote I nearly know by heart and absolutely adore... How fitting for today, I thought...

"Not everyone is going to like you and not everyone is supposed to. If everybody likes you, everybody understands you, and everybody includes you... You are not standing boldly enough for Christ. When Christ is in you it sets you apart. Loneliness is not an indication of abandonment, it's an invitation to intimacy with the One who knows you better than anybody else. It may be costly to do God's will, but you must remain confident in His reward..."

16 comments:

Shelly said...

You are so right Kenz! I've always found it easier to turn the other way when I don't agree with someone....unless it were something I really feel the need to take a moral stand on of course. But I don't expect everyone to agree with me and I can still appreciate other's points of views despite differences. My favorite part of your post was in bold saying, "Instead of bashing what you hate, promote what you love." It is so true. We need to focus our energy on the positive and the world will be so much brighter because of it.

Sarah said...

Sorry for all the hate! Hang in there!

~Dawn~ said...

It is so sad to hear that people can be so negative to those who are successful. Hang in there, Kenz!! I know it's hard, but those nasty comments have to be ignored. The person saying/typing them obviously has some of their own insecurities.

Amy said...

Preach it sister!
I will never understand why people feel the need to be so rude and callous. This is your blog, your place to express whatever it is you want to express. Some people love it, some people might not, but if they don't they can leave. <3
I LOVE your blog, and i LOVE what you have to say, and i LOVE you. You are fabulous, don't let anyone else get you down!

Amberly said...

OOOOoooo... I LOVE this! I think about this a lot, and I haven't gotten any hate e-mails/comments yet, but I've seen them on other blogs and it makes me really upset for those girls. I don't know many of my blog world friends, but I've come to love and respect them and I think they are great people!
None of us are perfect, none of us profess to be perfect, we are just here sharing our successes and shortcomings with the world and doing what we love! It really irks me when I see people throwing bullets at other people's opinions, thoughts, etc. when those people did nothing to deserve it in the first place!
You are awesome! I'm glad that I discovered your blog and I am excited to have you as a friend in this little blogging community! Keep it up!

emi said...

you are right! i don't understand why people choose to be unkind..it's obviously because something is not going well for them, so they take it out on a random blog on the internet. just further proof of the saying, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. XOXO new follower!
the well-traveled wife

Hayley said...

Honestly, it makes me MAD that you were getting so much hate on that post, because I loved it. People are ridiculous. But I hope you know that for all the haters, there are way more people that love your posts. And what matters most is you are writing for YOU. If people don't like it, well they can just click that little X up in the corner of their screen.

Stay strong, sister!

Lauren said...

Girl, straight up preach it sista!!!!!! Love you and your sweet self!!! XOXO :)

Gina said...

I struggle with this. Consistently, actually. I have a new rule, that if I talk about someone on my blog, EVEN IF IT'S POSITIVE, I send them a link. Because once, someone freaked out about one of my posts even though it was very vague. And if I don't feel comfortable sending them the link, I probably shouldn't post it. I did this last week, and the person didn't respond, which kinda freaked ME out, but whatever. I know you aren't even talking about anyone except your thoughts, but people get all wigged out about other people's posts and I too think it's ridiculous. I can't IMAGINE why on earth anyone would hate on that post (I did go back and read it!) but good for you for sticking to your guns.

Jen said...

You are 100% right, don't let anyone bring you down. You are an amazing person! :)

Amy said...

Aww girl I'm sorry that you've had some Negative Nancy's on your blog lately!! I completely agree with everything that you wrote here. Preach it, sister!

Jess said...

Oh sweet, sweet Kenzie. This verse is what came to mind when I read this. "Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Matthew 5:11. You are doing EXACTLY what you should be doing. You're amazing and I LOVED that post. I am sorry others said things to hurt your feelings!

Chrissy Delacy said...

Haters gonna hate. You just have to keep a smile on that pretty little face of yours and know that you choose to be happy instead of miserable and pray for them. that they will find the peace and happiness in their own hearts to spread kindness instead of cruelty. I know that is easier said than done. trust me. but knowing that there is nothing I can do about the rudeness makes it a teensy bit easier to let it go and go be the best ME I can be. I love your sweet self and the people that left us nastyness better hope I never see them in a dark alley {because i frequent dark alleys lol} :)

Chrissy Delacy said...

Haters gonna hate. You just have to keep a smile on that pretty little face of yours and know that you choose to be happy instead of miserable and pray for them. that they will find the peace and happiness in their own hearts to spread kindness instead of cruelty. I know that is easier said than done. trust me. but knowing that there is nothing I can do about the rudeness makes it a teensy bit easier to let it go and go be the best ME I can be. I love your sweet self and the people that left us nastyness better hope I never see them in a dark alley {because i frequent dark alleys lol} :)

Meredith @ The Laundry Can Wait said...

I agree whole-heartedly with what you've said, Kenz. Keep up the great blogging, and forget the meanies. :)

XOXO,
Meredith

shanavenom said...

Okay first of all HI, i'm your newest follower on gfc.

I'm so sorry to read about people who have been leaving hate on your blog. it seems like such a nice blog and i must say you are absolutely right!
this is your blog, you can post on it whater YOU like and if others don't like well then they shouldn't even be here.

I was very scared when i made my blog since i don't have the most normal blog, well, the one i write on every single day is not normal beauty, lifestyle thing but i like so much because i can't write that well about it so i just read those blog..

I really hope this doesn't happen again for you because it's just plain mean.

Much love from Miss MacManus
xoxo

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